Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Required Hair Styles for "Special Events"

What happens when an activity requires a child's hair to be a certain style, especially for a special event?  Many of us are faced with this challenge from time to time.  How do you deal with this dilemma?   Have you thought about how the style will be achieved?  Or how to deal with the hair after the event?   Will the way you choose to attain the hair style cause damage to the hair?

Before the yearly recital at my daughter's dance school, itineraries are handed out with instructions on how the child's hair should be worn.  Each year seems to be the same; the high bun.  The hair style is also required for the professional photo shoot that is done a month prior.

From the mothers, I see the frowns, hear the whispers of disagreement and the rolling of the eyes because of the daunting task to accomplish the requested hair style.  It is not because they do not want the particular style; some simply feel that their child's hair cannot be styled that way.  Some of the mothers have to deal with hair that they may find challenging to manage or style.  

Some mention getting their child's hair professionally straightened.  That is a choice that is practiced often.  If using heat on the child's hair is an option, be sure that the hair is well moisturized.  Flat ironing/pressing the hair on dry hair (unmoisturized hair) can cause the hair to become more dry, breakage and damage the hair strands. Some automatically set the hair tool to the highest temperature, thinking that it will do the trick and get the job done.  Doing a strand test starting with the minimum amount of heat is a good way to know how much heat is enough to straighten the hair.  This can alleviate the issues mentioned above.   Start with a moderate heat setting to see if the hair will straighten enough.  If you are satisfied with the results, you have the perfect heat setting. If you are not, take a couple of strands and move on to the next higher setting.  Heat damage can happen on any type of hair, on natural or chemically processed hair.  Once the hair is damaged, it is damaged.  Keep in mind, the less heat you use over all, the better.

My daughter (MadiMelzCurlz) has a very coarse hair texture when dry without products. Her hair is in the 4 texture range. Straightening her hair would have been an option for me to manage her hair and put it into a bun. But for the past three years since she has been dancing in her recitals, I have found "heatless" ways that helped me manage her hair and style it into a bun. That has been a preferred choice of mine. I wash her hair as normal, moisturize and then set it into several jumbo twists or loose french braids in each section to air dry. Once her hair is dried, I can undo the twists/braids and style her hair.  The results show that her shrunked hair has been stretched out to make it more manageable and takes less time to style.  I moisturize the hair ends and use a light gel around the edges to flatten the hair for a neater look.  Here's a video below on styling the hair into a simple bun:

* Creating a Basic Bun (Two Different Ways)

There are several ways to stretch out the hair without using heat.  Below are two links that shows the ways we shared on our Youtube channel.  BlessedMomOf3 shows a way to stretch the hair with the "Banding" method.  This method can also be worn as a style which is absolutely beautiful too:

* "Banding" Stretching Natural Hair Without Heat

Here is another way to stretch the hair without heat by doing jumbo twists or braids:

* Stretching Natural Hair Without Heat

This is the time where lot of recitals, competitions, weddings, gymnastics, sports etc. are happening now or coming soon.  Hopefully some of this information will benefit some of you! What are some of your ideas that has helped you in a required style for the hair without heat?  What advice would you give to other parents who come across this issue?

Thank you so much for reading and God bless! 

Written by Sdestra
Mom to Blessed Curly Gurl, MadiMelzCurlz

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

My BCG's are M.A.T.U.R.I.N.G !!!

It’s been a while since we’ve last posted a blog entry on our page.  Life has been crazy busy with my BCG’s so time has been limited.  These days, my BCG’s have their schedules full with Soccer, church activities, school and their “Social” calenders!! Joifulzcurlz (my soon to be 8yr old) has become such a social butterfly that her schedule has become challenging to keep up with.  She just went to her first sleep over after weeks of hubby & I debating whether or not to let her go.  She had an absolutely wonderful time and is now asking to have one of her own. 

She is really into fashionable clothing, shoes, jewelry and requesting hairstyles that she can style on her own.  Here lately, 2 strand twists/rope twists and braids have been at the top of her list!!  She likes wearing them because she can choose how she’d like to wear them on any given day. 
Her styles include: Pony Tails (one on each side, a single pony, a high/low pony or side pony), Half up/Half down styles, a twisted bun with a few twists hanging to the side or a few hanging in the front. 

These twists & braids have kept the hair arguments at bay and they give me extra time to focus on AngelzCurlz (4yr old) and her style requests.  Yes, she seems to be following in the steps of her big sis.  The good thing is that she mostly wants to wear twists or braids just like her big sister.  JoifulzCurlz is always excited about styling her baby sister’s hair so that’s a win for me once again :-).

I am finding that the older they get, the more opinionated they’ve become.  They like the fact that I actually listen to them (most days) when they want to make a styling suggestion.  I’m happy, if they’re happy.  I am coming to terms with the fact that Joifulzcurlz is maturing.  The days of wearing bows & barrettes, flower accessories and beads are far gone.  She likes to keep it simple, yet stylish… she even says “no” to wash n go’s and she gives me an “I don’t know” when I ask if she’d like to wear a twist out, lol. 

Who knows what this next year will bring for her?  I know that she will soon experience some physical changes and began to have questions about them as she feels ready to do so.  I think that it is important that I take the time to embrace those changes (emotionally, physically, intellectually & spiritually) and build on our mother/daughter relationship. I have started to take more interests in those things that are important to her (hair, fashion, friendships, sports) just to lay the foundation for those things that are yet to come. 

Are any of you going through this phase with your BCG’s?  If so, what has worked for you?  Have you found it hard to adjust to your BCG’s as they mature and go through their stages?  I guess I’d better get used to it and enjoy the ride… for now.  These days they just seem to grow up much too soon...
~TheBlessedMomOf3 (mom to AngelzCurlz & JoifulzCurlz)